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School measures and rewards a very narrow band of skills. Some kids thrive at school, and some thrive outside of school. Make sure that your child has a way to shine, even if it’s not through traditional academic outlets.
The most successful students have a growth mindset. They welcome feedback, know that making mistakes means that they’re learning, and understand that hard work is the path to success.
To help kids adopt a growth mindset, focus on their efforts, not their outcomes. Celebrate hard work, avoid praising talent.
Kids won’t like every teacher and that’s okay. We can let kids know that we are impressed when they work hard for teachers they like and even more impressed when they work hard for teachers who are not their cup of tea.
Don’t confuse high school graduation with college readiness. To be ready to go to college, young people need to be ready and willing to take good care of themselves.
The advice provided by Dr. Damour here will not and does not constitute - or serve as a substitute for - professional psychological treatment, therapy, or other types of professional advice or intervention. If you have concerns about your child’s well-being, consult a physician or mental health professional.
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