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Log inMy teen is glued to their phone. How can I get them to unplug without a fight?
Last updated on April 1, 2026
This happens. There are several things you can try to limit the time teens spend on phones. One option is to consider making a rule that the phone never goes into the teen's bedroom. This almost always helps to reduce how much time a teen spends online. Another option: instead of being "against" phone use, be "for" adequate sleep, focussed study, physical activity, in-person time, and helping out around the house or community. Busy teens have less time to spend online. Finally, consider making a family-wide rule that phone are never present at the table, on short car rides, or at other key connection times.
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The advice provided here by Dr. Damour and the resources shared by her AI-powered librarian, Rosalie, will not and do not constitute - or serve as a substitute for - professional psychological treatment, therapy, or other types of professional advice or intervention. If you have concerns about your child’s well-being, consult a physician or mental health professional.
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