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February 28, 2024

Dear Teenagers

College is Not a Tattoo

Teens applying to college often feel very anxious about how the process will unfold. Many students work with the assumption that getting into the college of their choice (or not!) will determine their future. Here, reassurance can be provided. In this two-minute video, Dr. Lisa Damour explains to teens that, while college may be the next chapter in their story, it’s a chapter that is quickly eclipsed by what they do with the college opportunity, not where they go. 

You can show this Dear Teenagers video to your teen, watch it together, or use it for guidance on how to talk with your teen about the path after high school. Looking for more? Adults can watch the Untangling Family Life video “10to20s and Stress” here.

The advice provided here by Dr. Damour and the resources shared by her AI-powered librarian, Rosalie, will not and do not constitute - or serve as a substitute for - professional psychological treatment, therapy, or other types of professional advice or intervention. If you have concerns about your child’s well-being, consult a physician or mental health professional.