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The Emotional Lives of Teenagers

Lisa's latest New York Times best seller is an urgently needed guide to help parents understand their teenagers’ intense and often fraught emotional lives—and how to support them through this critical developmental stage.

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Lisa’s second New York Times best seller is a celebrated guide to addressing the alarming increase in anxiety and stress in girls from elementary school through college.

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Lisa’s award-winning New York Times best seller–now available in nineteen languages–is a sane, informed, and engaging guide for parents of teenage girls. Now, because of its enduring popularity, Untangled is available in a revised and updated edition that supplements the timeless guidance at the heart of the original with fresh consideration of—and help for—challenges that have emerged recently for teens.

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March 21, 2024

Dear Teenagers

What Does It Mean to Be “Authentic”?

The pressure for teenagers to be “authentic” can sometimes leave them in a tricky spot. This video uses the metaphor of a front stage and back stage (very loosely adapted from the work of social psychologist Erving Goffman) to reassure 10to20s that they are not inauthentic or “two-faced” for simply being polite to people who rub them the wrong way. You can show this Dear Teenagers video to your teen, watch it alongside your teen, or use it for guidance on how to talk with your teen about authenticity. Looking for more? Adults can watch the Untangling Family Life video “How to Help 10to20s with Social Friction” here.

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January 10, 2024 Dear Teenagers Breathing Calms Anxiety, Here’s How Watch

February 6, 2024 Dear Teenagers When Motivation Goes Missing Watch

November 7, 2024 Dear Teenagers How to Get the Sleep You Need Watch

March 7, 2024 Dear Teenagers When You’re Worried About a Friend Watch

September 4, 2025 Dear Teenagers How to Deal with Procrastination Watch

January 5, 2024 Dear Teenagers How to Think About Consent Watch

September 5, 2024 Dear Teenagers Why Gambling Can Become a Problem Watch

December 5, 2024 Dear Teenagers The Importance of Guilt-Free Rest Watch

February 20, 2024 Dear Teenagers How to Be Smart About the Risks You Take Watch

January 31, 2024 Dear Teenagers On Comparing Yourself to Your Siblings Watch

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