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Every parent hopes that their child will learn to navigate life’s ups and downs with grace. So how do our own responses shape the way our 10-to-20-year-olds learn to handle disappointment? In this Dear Teenagers video, Dr. Lisa Damour explores how parents can offer steady support while also fostering perspective and resilience. You can share the video with your 10-to-20, watch it together, or use it as guidance for how to respond when discouraging moments inevitably arise.
The advice provided here by Dr. Damour and the resources shared by her AI-powered librarian, Rosalie, will not and do not constitute - or serve as a substitute for - professional psychological treatment, therapy, or other types of professional advice or intervention. If you have concerns about your child’s well-being, consult a physician or mental health professional.
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