When kids use the term “popular,” they may be describing peers of two different types. At some times, they may mean highly charismatic classmates who are a pleasure to be around. At others, they may be talking about peers who have—and sometimes misuse—a great deal of social power. In this Dear Teenagers video, Dr. Lisa Damour unpacks the importance of this distinction and offers teens guidance for being thoughtful about the friendships they pursue. You can share the video with your 10to20, watch it together with them, or use it to help you talk with your teen about social dynamics they may be dealing with.
For more on talking to teens about peer relationships, parents and caregivers can check out this Untangling Family Life video.
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