The Emotional Lives of Teenagers

The Emotional Lives of Teenagers

Lisa's latest New York Times best seller is an urgently needed guide to help parents understand their teenagers’ intense and often fraught emotional lives—and how to support them through this critical developmental stage.

Under Pressure

Under Pressure

Lisa’s second New York Times best seller is a celebrated guide to addressing the alarming increase in anxiety and stress in girls from elementary school through college.

Untangled

Untangled

Lisa’s award-winning New York Times best seller–now available in nineteen languages–is a sane, informed, and engaging guide for parents of teenage girls. Now, because of its enduring popularity, Untangled is available in a revised and updated edition that supplements the timeless guidance at the heart of the original with fresh consideration of—and help for—challenges that have emerged recently for teens.

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January 5, 2024

Dear Teenagers

How to Think about Consent

Consent is a legal term and, frankly, too low a bar for determining whether a person is ready for physical intimacy. In this one-minute video, Dr. Lisa Damour offers a simple yet fundamental description of what healthy romance looks like. 

You can show thisDear Teenagers video to your teen, watch it together, or use it for guidance on how to talk with your teen about consent. For more, adults can watch theUntangling Family Life on “Talking with Older 10to20s about Sex and Romance”here.

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The advice provided here by Dr. Damour and the resources shared by her AI-powered librarian, Rosalie, will not and do not constitute - or serve as a substitute for - professional psychological treatment, therapy, or other types of professional advice or intervention. If you have concerns about your child’s well-being, consult a physician or mental health professional.

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