The Emotional Lives of Teenagers

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June 19, 2025

Dear Teenagers

How to Think About Your Body

It’s not at all unusual for teenagers to worry about how they look. In this Dear Teenagers video, Dr. Lisa Damour offers guidance on how teens might think about their “containers” versus their “contents.” She emphasizes that what’s inside–their personality, their strengths, their values–will always matter more, and deserve more of their attention, than how they look on the outside.

For additional resources, make sure to check out the Untangling Family Life video Understanding Eating Disorders with Dr. Kelly Bhatnagar and Knot to Worry article When “Healthy” Eating Becomes Worrisome.

The advice provided here by Dr. Damour and the resources shared by her AI-powered librarian, Rosalie, will not and do not constitute - or serve as a substitute for - professional psychological treatment, therapy, or other types of professional advice or intervention. If you have concerns about your child’s well-being, consult a physician or mental health professional.

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