The Emotional Lives of Teenagers

The Emotional Lives of Teenagers

Lisa's latest New York Times best seller is an urgently needed guide to help parents understand their teenagers’ intense and often fraught emotional lives—and how to support them through this critical developmental stage.

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Lisa’s second New York Times best seller is a celebrated guide to addressing the alarming increase in anxiety and stress in girls from elementary school through college.

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Lisa’s award-winning New York Times best seller–now available in nineteen languages–is a sane, informed, and engaging guide for parents of teenage girls.

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January 31, 2024

Knot to Worry

Owning Your Errors: A Six-Step Guide to Apologizing to 10to20s

Parents make mistakes. At times, our mistakes hurt our 10to20s’ feelings or get in the way of our relationship with them. And sometimes, it’s only in retrospect that we realize that we’ve hurt or upset our teen.

Has your 10to20 become unusually reserved? If your otherwise chatty teenager has clammed up it might be time to consider whether you did or said something that cut previously open lines of communication or undermined some of your hard-earned trust. If you know what went wrong, go ahead and apologize.

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The advice provided here by Dr. Damour and the resources shared by her AI-powered librarian, Rosalie, will not and do not constitute - or serve as a substitute for - professional psychological treatment, therapy, or other types of professional advice or intervention. If you have concerns about your child’s well-being, consult a physician or mental health professional.