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March 21, 2024

Dear Teenagers

What Does It Mean to Be “Authentic”?

The pressure for teenagers to be “authentic” can sometimes leave them in a tricky spot. This video uses the metaphor of a front stage and back stage (very loosely adapted from the work of social psychologist Erving Goffman) to reassure 10to20s that they are not inauthentic or “two-faced” for simply being polite to people who rub them the wrong way. You can show this Dear Teenagers video to your teen, watch it together, or use it for guidance on how to talk with your teen about authenticity. Looking for more? Adults can watch the Untangling Family Life video “How to Help 10to20s with Social Friction” here.

The advice provided by Dr. Damour here will not and does not constitute - or serve as a substitute for - professional psychological treatment, therapy, or other types of professional advice or intervention. If you have concerns about your child’s well-being, consult a physician or mental health professional.

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