The Emotional Lives of Teenagers

The Emotional Lives of Teenagers

Lisa's latest New York Times best seller is an urgently needed guide to help parents understand their teenagers’ intense and often fraught emotional lives—and how to support them through this critical developmental stage.

Under Pressure

Under Pressure

Lisa’s second New York Times best seller is a celebrated guide to addressing the alarming increase in anxiety and stress in girls from elementary school through college.

Untangled

Untangled

Lisa’s award-winning New York Times best seller–now available in nineteen languages–is a sane, informed, and engaging guide for parents of teenage girls. Now, because of its enduring popularity, Untangled is available in a revised and updated edition that supplements the timeless guidance at the heart of the original with fresh consideration of—and help for—challenges that have emerged recently for teens.

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February 6, 2024

Dear Teenagers

How to Handle Conflict Well

Nobody expects 10to20s to get along with everyone, all the time. What matters is that they develop the skills to handle conflict well. In this four-minute video, Dr. Lisa Damour uses some of her favorite metaphors to describe the different forms of healthy, and unhealthy, conflict. 

You can show this Dear Teenagers video to your teen, watch it together, or use it for guidance on how to talk with your 10to20 about handling social friction well. Looking for more? Adults can watch the Untangling Family Life video “Helping 10to20s with Social Friction” here.

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The advice provided here by Dr. Damour and the resources shared by her AI-powered librarian, Rosalie, will not and do not constitute - or serve as a substitute for - professional psychological treatment, therapy, or other types of professional advice or intervention. If you have concerns about your child’s well-being, consult a physician or mental health professional.

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